Chapter 1: Understanding the Hotep Phenomenon

The term "Hotep" refers to a particular type of Black man who claims to advocate for the struggle against systemic oppression, yet often prioritizes his own interests above all else. These individuals may present themselves as principled, but their motivations can be self-serving.

As a woman, it's crucial to recognize that men often have underlying agendas. While they may assert otherwise, their intentions are typically part of a broader scheme.

It's not uncommon for some Black men to attempt to sway Black women away from "thinking like the white man." However, this is merely a tactic to exert influence, as illustrated in a personal encounter I had.

While waiting in line, an older Black man initiated a conversation regarding my vegan choices. I sensed he might possess valuable insights, so I engaged with him. However, it quickly became apparent that he viewed me as a potential romantic partner rather than a source of inspiration for my writing.

He soon inquired about my views on marriage, expressing disbelief when I stated that my focus is on my own personal growth rather than on the institution of marriage.

Darshon: You don’t believe in marriage, what’s wrong with marriage?

Me: Marriage isn't inherently problematic; it just isn't my priority. How many times have you been married?

Darshon: (Counts on his fingers, chuckling) I've been married three times, but not in the conventional sense—only in God's way, which is the only way that matters.

Me: How does that even qualify as marriage?

As he struggled to articulate a coherent narrative, I recognized his true intentions. His initial inquiry about marriage was merely a bait, and when I didn't respond with enthusiasm, he shifted his approach. It was clear that his intentions were less than sincere.

"Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves." (Matthew 7:15)

These manipulative men are often the most dangerous. They may invoke religious texts to justify their behavior, selectively quoting passages that serve their agenda while disregarding the broader teachings. Despite their claims, many fail to live according to the principles they preach.

I couldn't help but wonder if he thought I would be an easy target, perhaps someone to support him financially. Thankfully, it became evident that I was not interested.

Reader, what are your thoughts on this situation?

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Chapter 2: The Reality of Manipulation

The first video titled "A Black Lady Sketch Show: Hertep Homecoming" humorously addresses the dynamics of relationships and the pitfalls of manipulation in a cultural context.

In the second video, "Trapped: A Real Life Nightmare," we delve into the real-life implications of these relationships and the emotional turmoil they can cause.