Chapter 1: Understanding Temporary Connections

Are you someone who often leans on others for your emotional well-being? If so, it's time to reconsider this approach.

Don’t worry too much if you find yourself in this situation. Like many, I used to depend on others to boost my happiness, but I realized that this was harming me in the long run. It's essential to recognize that people come and go in our lives, and we should treat relationships with this understanding. Those who truly matter will stay, while others will drift away, signifying that they served their purpose.

It's crucial to understand that others do not define your worth or happiness. The uncomfortable truth is that relying on external validation is often a way to deceive ourselves into believing we need someone else to feel complete. What you genuinely need is self-acceptance and the drive to foster change within yourself. That motivation must originate from you.

I once believed that a strong, healthy relationship was the key to my happiness. Now, even with that relationship in my life, I still struggle with feelings of depression and anxiety. What I truly needed was to reconnect with myself, the person I had lost during my journey.

Instead of making excuses for my struggles, I had to take action. Reflecting on my past reliance on others, I experienced a significant loss when they departed. This left me feeling shattered, as if I lost my reason to move forward. I found myself consumed by negative thoughts and despair.

This cycle needs to change. You must learn to prioritize self-love, seek therapy, and actively work on your healing journey. Relying on others to mend your emotional wounds will not yield results. Until you take charge of your healing, the pain will persist. It may be challenging, but it is crucial to embark on this path. Remember, the belief that you need others to validate your existence is merely an excuse to avoid confronting your deeper issues.

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