Section 1.1: Recognizing What Holds Us Back

During my downturn, I was trapped in “figuring it out mode.” My inner manager parts were tirelessly attempting to devise a solution to feel better, but this was counterproductive. In this mindset, I achieved nothing meaningful.

Avoiding my emotions was another detrimental pattern. Instead of embracing my deeper feelings, I repressed them. Every emotion was met with either an urge to escape or a desperate attempt to rationalize it. I failed to allow my true essence to connect with these vulnerable parts, which was precisely what they craved.

All I could focus on were my perceived shortcomings and the negative narrative about my life and finances. I believed my circumstances dictated my self-worth, and as they remained unchanged, resentment only grew.

This mindset is common in many of us, particularly influenced by Western culture, which often exacerbates trauma and perpetuates a cycle of discontent. I have deep compassion for my past self, stuck in this state, as external pressures made it even harder to cope.

Can you see how these dynamics hinder the manifestation of abundance, love, and peace? My inner world felt overwhelmingly dark at times, leading me to question whether I would ever escape it.

However, I did.

Section 1.2: The Shift Toward Positivity

So how did I turn things around?

Here are the specific actions I took that prompted a significant internal transformation, resulting in a rapid external shift in my life and finances.

I consciously moved away from “figuring it out mode.” It wasn’t an instantaneous change; it required practice. During hikes, I would tell myself, “For this time, let’s hand over all our concerns to the trees. When we return to the car, we can reclaim them if we wish.” I discovered that by letting go, I could connect with a more authentic version of myself.

Once my inner parts experienced the relief of not trying to solve everything during my hikes, they began to embrace this newfound freedom.

Now, when I catch myself in “figuring it out mode,” I remind my parts to release those thoughts to Love, akin to how I previously entrusted them to nature.

Moreover, I learned to open myself to new experiences, listening to what my essence was eager to share. This shift helped me uncover incredible insights about myself, fostering a state of self-acceptance and joy.

I also focused on being present. Inspired by Jason Mraz's song “Be Where Your Feet Are,” I learned that rushing to resolve issues often meant evading the feelings I sought to avoid. By grounding myself in the present moment, I created profound shifts that disrupted my frenetic mental patterns.

Feeling my emotions became crucial. My inner protector parts often tried to shield me from deep feelings, but once I allowed myself to experience and process them, the burden on those parts lessened significantly.

Lastly, I made a conscious effort to recognize the positives in myself and my surroundings. My tendency was to fixate on problems, but I found that acknowledging the good created space for both joy and struggle.

Your Turn to Explore

Parts Work has been instrumental in transforming my life. As a trauma survivor, I’m statistically unlikely to be as fulfilled or successful as I am today, and much of that credit goes to this approach.

I invite you to explore this gift for yourself. You can begin your journey by reading this article. Additionally, I’ve created a free “Meet A Part of You” worksheet, guiding you through the process of identifying and engaging with your inner parts step-by-step.

Download it here and prepare for a transformative experience.

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